The Semiotics of Female Pleasure in Online Industry or Sometimes Ya Gotta Choke a Bitch

So, as many of you gentle readers probably know, in addition to running general entertainment sites and multigirl membership sites such as BlueBlood.com, I also run a number of membership sites for individual superstar Blue Blood hotties. At the moment, we are just about to launch a new one. The design has been pretty good to go for some time. Forrest Black did an absolutely killer job on it and the hottie who the site is for is awesome sexy fun and I’m dying to unveil the site. But we are having some trouble with the banking people, although I am a professional so I’m going to do what is needed to make the site go live, I am having some feminist issues with it.

Essentially, in order to be able to accept credit card or check or phone payments online, a financial institution of some sort needs to facilitate the charges going through correctly for the correct product. There are a lot of different methodologies for this and different companies have wildly different policies, but the salient point for what I want to talk about is that the banking people can ask a site to make changes before the site will be able to accept credit cards and such. I have no problem with this in general. Obviously, it is good if there are people paying attention to make sure that it is difficult for criminals to make money from doing terrible things to women, children, animals, even men. But the banking people refuse to process credit cards etc. for a lot of perfectly legal and perfectly ethical and decent content as well, including even some things which could run on prime time network television without outcry. The rules are sort of specialized and idiosyncratic.

I do kind of have a problem with the cultural bias some of the banking people seem to apply. It may not be their fault, in that Visa or MasterCard or whoever really might have a problem with some of the types of content the banking folks fret about. The billers are supposed to essentially function as a liaison between a company like Blue Blood and a company like Visa. Visa, for example, does not deal directly with the people who accept their cards. So it is the billers’ job to fret about what will freak out the credit card and check and phone people and I do kinda pay them to do so. Nonetheless, it sometimes bothers me which things do and do not get approved.

In the case of Blue Blood sites, the main things the billing people have asked us to censor over the years are the actual real fantasies of women we shoot. Second place is actual real stories women we have shot have shared about their personal sexual adventures. Part of the problem getting billing approval for our newest solo girl site is that, to me, one of the really exciting things about this particular woman is that she is all about exploring her sexuality and pushing both her own boundaries and other people’s boundaries. It is kind of difficult to communicate this exhuberance in a censored interview. I am also just really troubled by trimming down a person’s answer to questions about what turns them on or what they’ve actually personally done. Most recently, the billers held up the approval process on this newest solo girl site for the third time because they ran across the expression “lite choking” in the text of the interview I did with the subject of the site.

Apparently, they felt it was too “extreme” to have a woman talking about being turned on by being choked just a little bit. Now, they process for all sorts of gag porn sites where women perform fellatio which is done so hard and rough that the women weep and choke until they literally vomit. And it is all captured in colorful video and pictures. So how is a text representation of choking fantasy different in a more problematic way from a video or photographic representation of choking fantasy where a performer really is being choked? It comes down to what is directed at the male consumer. Hands around the throat for a little bit of breath control or mild strangling is primarily about female pleasure and female orgasm. Brutal fellatio is about male pleasure and male orgasm. Hence, “lite choking” is “extreme violence” but puking on penis is acceptable.

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Posted by Amelia G on May 14, 2007. Filed under Blue Blood. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0. You can leave a response or trackback to this entry