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Can young love last?
I'm getting paranoid; everywhere i look i see breakups and divorces.
I'm 21, if i love somebody now is there any hope we'll still love each other in twenty years time?
Enthusiastic and optimistic responses appreciated! ;) :thumb:
Yes, it absolutely can last. I think my mother was about 22 when she married my father and they are still together and making goo-goo eyes at each other to this day.
Depends what the love is based on. You really have to be connected at the soul for it to last.
OEC
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Originally Posted by OneEyedCat
True. That goes for any age.
My parents have been married almost 39 years. They eloped at 17 and 18, anything is possible. It all depends on the people involved.
Odd...around me everyone is hooking up, getting married, or having kids.
Love lasts only if the relationship is healthy...love really can't conquer all.
Depends entirely on the people.
Yep. **Quote:
Originally Posted by Drakken
I've seen a lot of people, presumably overwhelmed by emotions at the time, rush to put a label on things (often marriage) that they later regret. On the other hand, there have been a very few couples who had an almost immediate bond that actually lasted...but I emphasize again the rarity of that.
If you're young (and maybe even if you're not), I recommend not being in a rush to find a "soulmate" or a partner. Life has no agenda, despite society's message to the contrary, and far too many people seem to be in a hurry to legitimize themselves in some way. Enjoy where you are now, and don't worry about love lasting...worry more about getting in a comfortable rut.
It's easier to define what the problems are, rather than to talk about success stories.
Here is the problem:
You meet someone. You have some special chemestry. Love, sex, emotions, all bubble up in both people, and they both feel totally "in-love".
That's all totally great. Good shit.
But here is where things go bad for people.
They feel so "in love", that they go get married, get matching tattoos, have a couple kids, etc...
But after a few years together, the "magic" wears off.
Things like different interests, different ways of thinking, etc, start to wear down on people.
Arguments over everyday crap, causes the love to fade.
As the love and magic fade, people may cheat, etc...
It's just that the person no longer seems so special to you anymore.
If you want love to last, it has to be because you really love the person
for who they are, and you should really get along very well. You should
have common interests, and common ways of thinking. If you love being
with that person for the right reasons, then that love will last...
The best advice, is to see what happens.
Wait.
See how you feel about that person in 5 years.
If you are still both totally in love, then great. Get married, have kids, etc...
But wait to be sure...
If and when it does not work out, you will be very happy that you
did not get married, have kids, etc...
But if it does work out for a long time,
then you will know you have something good...
But you won't know until you let some time pass.
isnt love always over in the morning?
Pessimist!Quote:
Originally Posted by whorsefukker
actually..its a sisters of mercy line...'temple of love'Quote:
Originally Posted by cheinara wraithwalker
I have to agree wit OEC and Death Night...a good realtionship challenges you in positive ways...
oh and yer young lots of time to learn yet..enjoy your youth...travel fall in and out of lovea couple more times...I use tot hink people who said yer not getting married till you'are 30 were wierd...now into todays world...they may just be telling thr truth...some people are lcky and have great realtionships when they are young...
i've been in love a long time now. we got married at 18 and i'm 30 now. the best way to find lasting love is friendship. we went thruogh all kinds of crap [boyfriend/girlfriend] before we even dated. it can last if you work at it.
my parents got married when my mom was 18 and my dad was 22. it has been 21 years and they are still together... i believe it can last!
I'm aiming for 40 at this point. I'd like to have kids someday, but at the same time I just had to be realistic with where I was. I needed to get a true sense of purpose before I settled down.Quote:
Originally Posted by CPRB
OEC
good points made by everyone...
Yes, friendship is the most important thing to make it last. Your mate should also be your best friend. It is important that you will never run out of things to talk about, laugh about and think about together. You should be completely comfortable with the person, in EVERY way.
Young love can last, if it is really love...which is sometimes hard to determine.
I think that a big problem these days is that divorce and separation are more readily accepted. People don't seem to be fighting as hard as they used to to save their relationships. One major fight is no reason to doubt your love....
Only if you suck at it. LOL jkQuote:
Originally Posted by whorsefukker
I beleive true love can stand the test of time....forever. I sure hope so. I got married the same week I turned 18. I just turned 23 in January. We got married 1/9/2000...but we started dating 1/9/99...weve made it so far, and I see no reason why we wont continue to be happy and in love.
True love is sometimes hard to find, it is way different than crushes, or puppy love, or sexual desires. True love consumes you and never lets go. If you find it when your young, your lucky....but eventually as long as your open to it, True love will find you!
From personal experience, it lasts best...
that's so sweet! my parents are the same way!Quote:
Originally Posted by AmeliaG
This is excellent advice, but it's really hard to be subjective and reasonable when it comes to your own feelings of love.Quote:
Originally Posted by TheDeathKnight
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sorry-
but No.
its really just a chemical reaction that amazingly can last from several days to a few years and then basicly dies- however, during that time we develop loong lasting emotional attatchments to those we "love"- and thats what gets us-
I believe it can...Age is only a number...I met my husband when he was 20...we wed when he was 21....we've been together 6 years now...maturity comes at different times for everyone...
If you find an immature partner who isnt ready to settle down or feels like they are *missing out* on something while in a relationship than it will not work...but I know from experience there are those out there that are perfectly content , from a young age...being with one person...oh i forgot to mention...we even met on the internet...we loved each other before we even saw a picture...so we beat 2 odds...anything can happen! :)
I met my fiance and we were engaged two months later, I moved in with him after one month of knowing him. We are still happy almost a year later. Ive never had a relationship last over 6 months, so i defineately think hes it. Hes turning 40 in April and Im turning 24 in April. I think it happens;]