Your Role In Relationships

Do you find yourself always repeating the same relationship, with different people, but similar?

Are you always playing the same role in the relationship? Do you tend to seek out the same types of people over and over?

I know that I do. I also tend to seek out the same types of friends. (Especially WILD GIRLS as friends... I have always had the WILDEST girlfriends in the world!!)

Do you want to change this pattern or is it OK with you?

Sometimes I try to change my patterns, but then I realize that it is just not "me", and I have to be true to myself....

yes. I used to think that it was only fucked up people like me that followed the same patterns, but maybe it's everyone. I think maybe that it's because you get a certain model of behaviour and personality in your head and it's not so much that you look for people that fit it, as you don't really know how to look for people that don't fit it.
I guess that considering nearly every woman of my generation has abandonement issues with thier father, it tends to be that the people I am with have a hard time being open and always feel like they can't rely on other people.

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Originally Posted by MistressJennifer

Do you find yourself always repeating the same relationship, with different people, but similar?

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Not anymore. I used to exclusively date emotionally unstable crazy chicks, and after it didn't work out, and we broke up I would wonder why all my cool clothes got stolen.

I stay away from girls like that now. Far away!

i always go for the guy that is gonna cheat on me....and for some reason the ones that are so manipulative that they make YOU apologize for THEM cheating...I hate it

I don't know...
I bet if you brought them chicks home to sleep with, they wouldn't cheat on you...
;)

But on a serious note, I have made minor adjustments along the way.
I started out with my first love being a wild, crazy chick. But she was
also a liar. So then I looked for wild chicks that were honest. But then
you run into some drug addicts, or some emotional inatability, and
decide you don't want that either. So you go on to a wild chick who
also has her shit together. So over time, you realize the things you
want, and what you do not want to deal with.

I tried dating a "normal" girl once.
It worked great, healthy, normal, no problems, etc, but it was BORING as hell.
No passion, no excitement, etc...

So you just have to keep adjusting.

But I would not want to keep repeating bad mistakes again.
If someone has big problems, I don't want to deal with it.

It takes a lot for me to reject a person - outright assholery or something of the kind usually does not. I drift apart more than I outright cut off. Sometimes it feels like my personality attracts the weirdest people; I strive to remain open, accepting, up for anything, generous and supportive when necessary, but proactive enough to go "fuck it, let's steal railway spikes, purple glitter and wet cement, somehow construct an outfit out of it and go out". I attract some cool people, but also some people who just ignore that last bit and strain my generosity until I am forced to yell.

I do not want to stop being a good person, though some people test me.

Certain sort of people I have always loved and enjoyed and always will, so I seek out more people with certain sets of traits and am happy about that.

I recognize that I am vulnerable to certain really specific varieties of manipulative lying takers. I used to really let that sort of person take me apart for long time periods. Now, when I realize I am having a relationship repeat with someone like that, I get out as fast as possible. Some people, it is possible to drift away from and some make it necessary to push them away, but I definitely make every effort to avoid unpleasant repeats.

Nope always just been me :rryumy:

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Originally Posted by Mr Karl

Nope always just been me :rryumy:

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Shellac me and put me in my chair!! Classic!

Well as I always say, I go for the gorgeous bad boys every time!! But it's fun!!!! What can I do? I can't say that it's been dull. Wild girls and bad boys...!!!! Makes a good screenplay that's for damn sure...

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Originally Posted by MistressJennifer

Well as I always say, I go for the gorgeous bad boys every time!! But it's fun!!!! What can I do? I can't say that it's been dull. Wild girls and bad boys...!!!! Makes a good screenplay that's for damn sure...

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Sometimes you just have to go with what your gut tells you. And, even if it isn't fun, it is okay if it makes a good story later :thumb:

That's right! We are all here for the basic theatrical value of life!

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Originally Posted by AmeliaG

Sometimes you just have to go with what your gut tells you. And, even if it isn't fun, it is okay if it makes a good story later :thumb:

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yeah....but my gut always tells me to murder, murder, murder, murder, murder all night long, till there's no witnesses left, and then I can sing 'always let your conscience be your guide' off key...