word of advice,bigboy? be careful with online dating,okay?
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word of advice,bigboy? be careful with online dating,okay?
I think that some people will never have a perfect match.
Why?
Because some people are too far out on the extremes.
For example:
What if you were teleported back to the 1700's.
As a man, or as a woman, would you find a match for yourself?
No one would like the same music you like. Few people would
have the same intelligence or knowledge as you would.
People would not accept many of your ideas or beliefs.
You would simply not fit in, and definitely not find a "soulmate".
You would be lucky not to be burned at the stake.
So the same is true today.
If you fit in with society 100%, and want a normal life, normal job, normal friends, normal family, and you are normal too, it's MUCH easier to find someone who wants EXACTLY the same things you do, and who has the exact same ideas, hopes, and dreams. But the more you are off into the extreme sides of life, and the stranger your personality is, the harder it is to find someone perfectly matched to you.
I think it's much better for people to look for someone who "accepts" you, and who is compatible. Someone you can live with, and get along with, even if they are not an ideal match. Because honestly, that "ideal" match sometimes does not exist. And if the perfect man or woman does exist, who has the same interests, are totally hot and sexy, and intelligent, and everything else, those awesome people are probably already in relationships with other equally awesome and hot people. That is another fact to keep in mind. If you are not perfect, then your partner will not be perfect either.
But no one is perfect. I dont think there is a perfect person out there and you are stupid to look because if you find some one to love then why would you get rid of them in the hope of finding someone better, epically when if you stay with the same person long enough then you become comfortable with who they are and vice versa whil at the same time sub consciously changing to make them happy, there fore become the perfect person for them, of course this dosent work for everyone
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Originally Posted by allah
I think they are playing down the street from me on Sunset Blvd in the new Live Nation venue some time this month or next.
To answer the original question, I think some people need to do some self-repair before they can have a real relationship, so perhaps arguably there is someone for them only after they take care of themselves. Then again, some people enjoy having relationships with damaged people who can't treat them right, so maybe there simply is someone for everyone. I mean, Jeffrey Dahmer did get dates. He just, ya know, killed and ate them.
another part to this i wonder about would be does this person really have to be a physical person? i mean, some religions require their followers to be celabate and devoted only to their god or godess. in this concept, they are not truelly alone but from the outside appear to be alone.
basically i dont think one is always intended to ahve a physical soulmate but may be destined to be a part of a faith or plan or dream or goal.
some artists work best alone and are content to wittle their life down with noone but their canvas or tools and dreams.
some priests or priestesses are content being deep into their studies with only their god or godess to keep them company etc.
http://www.xckd.com/310/
It might just turn out like this. Who knows?
that was pretty funny,dusk.
You seem pretty bitter about loving yourself. Bad break up? :DQuote:
Originally Posted by allah
I dont think that there is 1 specific person for you.
But i do believe that there is a few number of people in which both of your souls connect.
If there was only 1 person for you and that person died, are you just suppose to give up??
:]
thats another good question.
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Originally Posted by ROGIZOID
I really hope not? I always thought of my parents being each others "only one". but now that my dads been dead almost 2 years, I cant imagine my mom being alone forever. maybe theres a select few out there who actually get you.
A fortune teller told me that once: that my soul mate was already dead.
that sux,bikerpunk. how credible was the fortune teller though?
Well, only one solution to that... [/Rockwulf]Quote:
Originally Posted by Bikerpunk
This just keeps getting better. :1orglaughQuote:
Originally Posted by malcolm
Quiet! You're ruining my fun. :D
:confused:Quote:
Originally Posted by Raza
i kinda think so...
Well, believe me, I put the same trust in fortune tellers as I would Rockwulf on how to lose weight, or Raza on how to act manly.Quote:
Originally Posted by Raza
touchee'
Do cats count?
Seriously (not that the cat comment isn't serious), I believe in universal love - well, that we siphon from "there", direct it where our egos will, and proceed to mess it up. I'm glad I no longer do relationships. Too much drama!
I am no better or worse than most. I, too, choose the uniqueness of selective love. I looove my kitties SO MUCH but I don't love assholes. I have been "in love" and I have friends I adore. Other folks...I can't seem to stand.
Yes, I am unenlightened, and haven't mastered universal love.
I don't know anyone that has personally. But I know people that got glimpses of it. I too had a moment of enlightenment. But it lasted for a moment. Full enlightenment takes years and years to accomplish, some of seekers never get a glimpse of it at all.
I once got a peek of it cutting a sleeve off a sweater.
That's not what I asked. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by allah
While I remember, this is for BP: http://www.explosm.net/comics/1001/
there's somebody out there for you
There'd better be!
Actually, I do okay on my own tbh but I'd like to think I have the option at some point :)