how do you deal??

[Shadow]

what do you do when your upset pissed?

[Belladonna]

cry and yell and hit stuff

[OliX]

I change my daipers

[corachaos]

I try to figure out exactly why I am angry. Am I angry at myself? Am I angry at something I brought on? (usually) Am I having a blood sugar episode? PMS? By the time I figure it out...I mean really put a finger on it, the ragey part is usually gone.

....then I have a nice glass of wine.

[Nudemuse]

With me it really depends on just how pissed I am. If it's something trivial that I'm cranky about I'll grouse about it for awhile then I'm over it. If it's something more serious I'll try to talk it out or if I"m super my head is going to blow up type pissed I get dead silent. That's usually a sign to clear the area before I blow. But that doesn't happen to me too often.

If I'm just sort of pissy in general I'll write in one of my journals or play with my website until I'm more relaxed.

[Drakken]

I.. dont post about it on the internet for others to read for attention thas for sure..

*blinks*

[Drakken]

I try to figure out exactly why I am angry. Am I angry at myself? Am I angry at something I brought on? (usually) Am I having a blood sugar episode? PMS? By the time I figure it out...I mean really put a finger on it, the ragey part is usually gone.

....then I have a nice glass of wine.

Yay for wine! that highly rocks.

[franziska]

I cry, and listen to my music really loud, and once I trashed my room which I had just cleaned. Mostly I just cry and listen to loud, loud, angry music.

[Shadow]

i hear ya!!

[TheQuietPlace]

If im pissed off and stressed... i usually cry. meh.. i usually always cry.. unless its in public.

[pedar]

exercise..back when I was dealing with a lot of rage..I'd go to the gym and pump iron..had a friggin great body as a result..P.

[BrightStar]

-=fragment Missing=-

[Kidthorazine]

i play guitar and smoke dope

[Amelia G]

I tell the truth about situations I normally hold my tongue on.

[Mirren]

Well, If I am super pissed, just wait for the calm of the storm really. It takes a lot to get me seeing red most of the time. If I know someone is intentionally fucking with me, that gets me angrier than anything, and I will react. I have learned over time though, that it's better to just think things through before you end up making an ass out of yourself and looking like the instigator. When we react without rationality and just think with our emotional side, that tends to happen. Read some Ayn Rand

[CPRB]

I go and do some artwork or go skateboard or work out

[CPRB]

or I just sit down and scream and cry or I thinmk about the sitaution and take a breath..so long as Id eal with it and it is done healthy

[postcoital]

I get drunk, throw some Navicon Torture Technologies into winamp, pump up the subwoofer and play Soul Calibur 2 on GC.
Or I take some psillos and try to relax. Haven't had any for a while, tho.

[Amelia G]

The benefits of overeating and posting on the Blue Blood boards should never be underestimated either.

[skully]

although i like the idea of overeating and posting on the blue blood boards as amelia pointed out... this has been my personal proven instructions on dealing with anything life can throw you!!!(my personal fave is still number 7)

"How do you deal with it? Someone out there must be better at this than me."

unfortunately i doubt this would actually help you but you asked what works for me.
(in order of severity)

1)remind myself that i DO have the ability to let that which does not matter slide...

2)remind myself that if this is how they treat me then they no longer deserve all that i can offer them as friends...and i start to restrict my trust and emotions etc so that they are not able to do it again

3)i do something to get my mind off of it (music usually works best TV works really well,while its on, but sometimes after i turn the tv off it comes right back)

4)i get it off my chest by telling a close friend

*****usually all of these tricks help get rid of the intial emotions that are bothering and once that happens i am usually all good again, but if they do it again or do something similar that i am just starting to get upset with a person then i resort to the following:

5) i confront the person (it usually makes things a little worse intially but then i can resort to 1-4 to calm down and get it out of my system)

6) i excercise (either running/gym/stuff in my room/etc etc) and physically and emotionally get everything out of my system...especially since i listen to music and my workouts always start and end with a almost meditative stretching i always feel good after a workout.

************for absolute dier emergencies in pain sorrow anger and/or misery*********************

7) one 16oz container of fresh sour cream and one packet of hidden valley Ranch dressing/dip mix. stir and eat with pretzels

if its early enough in the day this is a one day supply if its later in the day then half first and the other half the next day...
preferably for dinner..(remember this is for when you are TO messed up for working out...so after this special extreme treatment 1-2 treatments of number 6 is required to return emotion levels *and fat levels* back to normal

[Drakken]

although i like the idea of overeating and posting on the blue blood boards as amelia pointed out... this has been my personal proven instructions on dealing with anything life can throw you!!!(my personal fave is still number 7)

"How do you deal with it? Someone out there must be better at this than me."

unfortunately i doubt this would actually help you but you asked what works for me.
(in order of severity)

1)remind myself that i DO have the ability to let that which does not matter slide...

2)remind myself that if this is how they treat me then they no longer deserve all that i can offer them as friends...and i start to restrict my trust and emotions etc so that they are not able to do it again

3)i do something to get my mind off of it (music usually works best TV works really well,while its on, but sometimes after i turn the tv off it comes right back)

4)i get it off my chest by telling a close friend

*****usually all of these tricks help get rid of the intial emotions that are bothering and once that happens i am usually all good again, but if they do it again or do something similar that i am just starting to get upset with a person then i resort to the following:

5) i confront the person (it usually makes things a little worse intially but then i can resort to 1-4 to calm down and get it out of my system)

6) i excercise (either running/gym/stuff in my room/etc etc) and physically and emotionally get everything out of my system...especially since i listen to music and my workouts always start and end with a almost meditative stretching i always feel good after a workout.

************for absolute dier emergencies in pain sorrow anger and/or misery*********************

7) one 16oz container of fresh sour cream and one packet of hidden valley Ranch dressing/dip mix. stir and eat with pretzels

if its early enough in the day this is a one day supply if its later in the day then half first and the other half the next day...
preferably for dinner..(remember this is for when you are TO messed up for working out...so after this special extreme treatment 1-2 treatments of number 6 is required to return emotion levels *and fat levels* back to normal

F***ing Go, you rule preztel person!

[Scarlett1313]

well being, i am more than likely upset about something..i just make sure i keep up with my meds and i try to talk to someone that I think understands me..otherwise...i cry some, but i also tend to get over things rather quick - never used to before, but now when i have gotten older...it seems to work better...just trying, but not to hard...gets ya nowhere.

[HempKnight]

I try to keep it to two simple rules:

1. Don't sweat the small stuff

2. EVERYTHING is small stuff


If that fails... then a dark room with a couple trazodone does the trick.

[Kidthorazine]

I try to keep it to two simple rules:

1. Don't sweat the small stuff

2. EVERYTHING is small stuff


If that fails... then a dark room with a couple trazodone does the trick.

I tried trazadone once the doctor said it would help me sleep but all it did was give me a hard on for like four hours (which by the way was extreemely painful after awhile) its best to just stick with reefer

[pedar]

I tried trazadone once the doctor said it would help me sleep but all it did was give me a hard on for like four hours (which by the way was extreemely painful after awhile) its best to just stick with reefer

Yep -same thing happened to me on Trazadone- when I was trying to wean off Paxil- that hurts-P.

[bre.star]

i listen to some music that fits my emotions, write a poem or song, take a nice shower, and try to go to sleep. sleeping always helps me.

[TheQuietPlace]

i listen to some music that fits my emotions, write a poem or song, take a nice shower, and try to go to sleep. sleeping always helps me.

I write when i pissed off, or sleep. Always works for me...

[keiko]

Good italian cooking when I'm depressed (tears and tortellini) and a little ranting in my diary or at the nearest person or cat or wisp of air when i'm pissed. After I've vented I usually feel much better.
K

[macabrette]

I usually clean something when I'm upset. If my life can't be in order, at least the dishes, floors, closet, etc. can be. I used to love going for long drives when I was angry.

[PaulCat]

if i'm all down and depressed i'll listen to Therapy? for a few hours, if i'm psychotically angry at something or someone then lightgun games at the arcade are always good, mindlessly violent computer games (so i dont get stuck trying to do something and get myself frustrated)

Or find a Cat and make it purr, that sound always makes me feel alright.

[-=Asmodeus=-]

I try to keep it to two simple rules:

1. Don't sweat the small stuff

2. EVERYTHING is small stuff


If that fails... then a dark room with a couple trazodone does the trick.

sounds like my little nugget..
Dont Sweat the Petty Stuff...
Always Pet the Sweaty Stuff...

But Usually If I am pissed I go to my friends shop where we work on cars and Start fabricating something as that usually involves pounding on metal with a really big Hammer...
Does wonders and has kept me outa jail more than a few times...
I do some of my best work when I am ravingly pissed

[Minx Hates You]

Drink some coffee ..!! play some guitard or bass...!!! if i dont feel like playing..!!! i listen to music..!!

[cOrE_dUmPeR]

I go buy a pint of Ben & Jerry's Uncanny Cashew, and watch porn

[devilmutt]

i break something or do some other kind of mindless voilent behavoir

[purplepixie]

if im angry i just shout and swear at random people put on really loud angry music the usual predictable, but if im really really angry or upset i get on with my art work and refuse to talk to anyone or even eat until its finished

[Shadow]

I forgot to say what i do when i get pissed well my music helps a bunch I like to play my guitar or like alot of you said CRY!!! by the way thanx for replyin guys and gals!!

[cOrE_dUmPeR]

**Crosses BlueBlood Boards newbie finish-line...**
**...arms in air, shouting "links and pics here I come!!! huzah!!!"**

[TheQuietPlace]

**Crosses BlueBlood Boards newbie finish-line...**
**...arms in air, shouting "links and pics here I come!!! huzah!!!"**

Where the hell is that "Huzah" word from... i know its from somewhere.. i just forgot where....

[franziska]

Huzzah is like the medieval version of hooray. It's a great word, and saying it often attracts some weird looks.

[Synthella]

When I'm really upset I usually lay down in bed and try to nap. I've found that really helps. Unless the shit has really hit the fan a nap does the trick.

If I can't nap, I try to do something else that's incompatible with feeling crappy, like eating Ben & Jerry's or reading a good book or watching cartoons or a movie. I never try to deal with what's upsetting me right away- if I do I blow things out of proportion and just make myself feel worse, and things harder to deal with later on.