What's the polite thing to do if someone complains about their weight all the time?

[Scar]

What's the polite thing to do if someone complains about their weight all the time?

It makes me super uncomfortable. I never know what to say. Especially cause it's usually people who are normal sized humans, and by American standards pretty average. You can't say 'no you're not fat' cause they're already convinced they are and debating the matter would be horrible. So what do you say!?!?!?!?

[bohoki]

tell them it doesnt matter how much they weigh it only matters how much displacement they have in water

look how skinny the terminator is but with all that steel its like 200 pounds

[Donald Rilea]

tell them it doesnt matter how much they weigh it only matters how much displacement they have in water

look how skinny the terminator is but with all that steel its like 200 pounds

[One Eyed Cat]

What's the polite thing to do if someone complains about their weight all the time?

It makes me super uncomfortable. I never know what to say. Especially cause it's usually people who are normal sized humans, and by American standards pretty average. You can't say 'no you're not fat' cause they're already convinced they are and debating the matter would be horrible. So what do you say!?!?!?!?

Were I you? Have sex with em then ask them to repeat the question. Silence is probably my most tactically sound response.

JT

[Donald Rilea]

Were I you? Have sex with em then ask them to repeat the question. Silence is probably my most tactically sound response.

JT

JT: Are you askin' Scar to "pound" 'em into submission ???

Sorry for the pun, you two. Thought of it, and couldn't resist.

[Velvet-Tongue]

I'd say "Yeah you're pretty fat"

Once you stop responding to their compliment fishing they usually stop

[Velvet-Tongue]

JT: Are you askin' Scar to "pound" 'em into submission ???

Sorry for the pun, you two. Thought of it, and couldn't resist.

I think she should Punish them instead.

[One Eyed Cat]

JT: Are you askin' Scar to "pound" 'em into submission ???

Sorry for the pun, you two. Thought of it, and couldn't resist.

Scar will accomplish the mission without use of prosthetics! Simpson didn't even report it missing! I was nowhere near the hotel!

JT

[Donald Rilea]

Scar will accomplish the mission without use of prosthetics! Simpson didn't even report it missing! I was nowhere near the hotel!

JT

Why, Jackie!!!! Didn't reckon the Palace Station was your kinda place, anyway!!!!

[One Eyed Cat]

Why, Jackie!!!! Didn't reckon the Palace Station was your kinda place, anyway!!!!

Character witness!! I'd never go to such a place!

JT

[Donald Rilea]

Character witness!! I'd never go to such a place!

JT

Been inside it a few times, back when there was a computer school in the immediate neighbourhood, and a friend of mine also used to live within its vicinity.

Not a bad place, really, though have never stayed there, so can't testify to the quality of the rooms there.

It, and the other members of the Station Casinos family, likes to bill itself as a locals' casino, because it's not located on either the Strip or in down-town Vegas, and many of its clientele are, well, locals.

Personally, am glad have neither the money nor skill levels for gambling, as casinos, and I worked as a change person in a couple up in Reno in the late '80's, really can be quite sad, boring places to be, I think.

BTW, I got completely off the topic of this thread, so, for better or worse, here's my input.

It all depends on how well you know the person complaining and how often you see them.

In the case of acquaintances whom one doesn't often see, a quick bit of reassurance and an even quicker change of topic might do the trick.

For family members and friends to whom one's close, a loving but, if need be, bluntly honest appraisal of their weight situation might do the trick, followed by asking them WHY they're so concerned about their weight. A bit of active listening, followed by whatever reasonably sound advice, commiseration, what have you, on top of that, might also help.

Finally, for those people who keep going on and on and on about it, no matter what, maybe, and I say maybe, saying something like , "For God's Sake, Please, please stop it. You're not as fat as you think you are, but you ARE driving yourself, me, and everyone else around us CRAZY by going on and on about this. If you're that concerned about this, please talk with your doctor about finding and starting a diet and exercice programme. But, please, just stop talking about your weight problem, thank you."

These are suggestions only, and may be altered or ignored completely if not practical to the situation and people at hand.

[Bikerpunk]

"Yeah, you're fat. Either diet or shut up, but so something and stop whining."

[Xochitl]

I've just learned to say nothing. Generally there is a well of low self-esteem there that I don't want any part of.

[Mr Karl]

for some reason people who go on about things like that don't come near me so I'll never know what I'll say

[Exquisite]

Honestly I don't think its a weight thing, I've seen women who would be considered over weight but are beautiful. Guys have it a little harder in that department actually.

[VoltaireBlue]

If they keep going on about it, i usually just agree with them that they are fat.

[keiko]

"yeah, i know right? but look they make XXL thongs but they don't make any under wear smaller than a size five, so maybe you're supposed to fat."

~K

[mmmcherry]

ohhhh they make underwear under size 5... batman underoos!!! those are hawt on chicks
but yeah... i dont get people that go on and on like that :S i kindof agree with bikerpunk, do something about it if you dont like the way you look, but either way stop complaining :S

[Superna]

just grab their buns and start jiggling em ... say WOW this big ass is SO AWESOME !!!

that always works on me

[Donald Rilea]

just grab their buns and start jiggling em ... say WOW this big ass is SO AWESOME !!!

that always works on me

[Creepshow]

hb shut the F*ck up, you probably have bigger problems than worrying about being fat?
personally.
or, just you arent fat!
even if they are.
besides, who's to say whats fat and whats not fat?
everyone has their own opinion.
just, some shouldnt express them if they are freakin losers.

[Satori]

It's even better if they're eating chips when they say it.

I refuse to take them seriously at all. If you compliment them like they want, you're just supporting the cycle in their head of low self-esteem > bolstered by attention of others.

[One Eyed Cat]

If they keep going on about it, i usually just agree with them that they are fat.

[Pyre]

agree with them and then smack themor (if you don't want to be evil) just smack them twice.

[Thistle Harlequin]

Ugh! That's me! I'm always complaining that I'm fat because of my gut...yet i'm so totally SUPER DUPER skinny

I'm like 6'0 and 118lbs

My friends are kinda used to it so they don't say anything but what you should say to someone like me is NOT : "omg you need to gain some weight"

Tell me to shut the fuck up and gain some muscle.

[Thistle Harlequin]

I'd say "Yeah you're pretty fat"

Once you stop responding to their compliment fishing they usually stop

Depends on the person...

I only say "I'm fat" or "that's fattening" when I'm offered food to offered to go eat out with friends....I'm not fishing for compliments, maybe others are ::shrugs::

[Thistle Harlequin]

or wait .i. got another one... Buy them a Slim Fast

[malcolm]

ive found the easiest thing to do for omeone who constantly is complaining about being fat is to say nothign at all. if its a constantcomplaint, theres probably mre to it than their weight and theyre looking more for a quick ego boost through an of the side compliment...ofcourse i'm quite abit of an asshole o usualy say "youre fucing right your fat" or "dont makeme smack you"

[One Eyed Cat]

Ugh! That's me! I'm always complaining that I'm fat because of my gut...yet i'm so totally SUPER DUPER skinny

I'm like 6'0 and 118lbs

My friends are kinda used to it so they don't say anything but what you should say to someone like me is NOT : "omg you need to gain some weight"

Tell me to shut the fuck up and gain some muscle.

Repeat this Mantra:

Muscle = Tone! Tone = Hot! Cardio = Throbbing Cock! Blooooood Flow Baby!

JT

[Thistle Harlequin]

i like the throbbing cock!

[One Eyed Cat]

i like the throbbing cock!

Tone ==

JT

[Black Spiral Dancer]

If they complain they are too fat when they aren't, tell them the look great and don't need to loose anymore weight.

If they are complaining about being too thin, then the same (unless they're so thin they are risking their health, in which case tell them to eat some bloody pies!)