Bah! I still cant seem to get a date.

[Tequila Zaire]

Don't answer every girl's post, and ask her if she wants to meet up with you.

Don't ask out every girl you meet.

Don't tell everyone how much you need a girlfriend.

It sounds pathetic, and it turns most girls off...
(Guys too...)

Exactly...I think you need some female FRIENDS to be honest.

[BrightStar]

Well, Most of My "FRIENDS" are Female.

[pedar]

D'oh!!!


Oh no... NOTHING good can come from a bar 'romance' (for the most part...) rare chance you will find the love of your life doing body shots.

Been there, done that ... someone murdered her because of it.
Wasn't me, I had grown tired of her cheating long before that.. but the next fella wasn't as mentally stable and instead of walking away, took it to the extreme.

Most bar relationships are usually based either on getting laid or booze, or BOTH... the 'get drunk and fuck' thing only goes so far for just so long.

Hemp I have to disagree- I know a couple -both of them PhDs. who met at one of the most notorious singles bars in LA- who have been married -last I checked - at least ten years..
There are no formulas- P.

[pedar]

Bah!

Oh we all feel that way sometimes.-It's part of life and -I hate to say this- but yes, growing up..
I was at Urban Outfitters last week- there is a new book aimed at young males for picking up/meeting women..search over at Amazon Books
P.

[HempKnight]

Hemp I have to disagree- I know a couple -both of them PhDs. who met at one of the most notorious singles bars in LA- who have been married -last I checked - at least ten years..
There are no formulas- P.

I didn't say that it was an absolute formula and that there aren't the uncommon few who do find their spouse in a bar.
But once again, you are talking about two highly educated people and a decade ago.
I know quite a few couples who found each other in clubs and bars in the late 70's - early 80's are are still married today as well.
Again, different time, different circumstances and different mindset.
The average frat boy in the bar these days isn't looking for a wife, he's on the prowl for pussy, plain and simply.
And it's not that you can't meet nice people in a bar, but over consumption of alcohol leads to poor judgement.

[Nudemuse]

Personally I've never been one to be freaked out by being single. I'd suggest go out do things you enjoy. Can't meet the right person if you're not meeting people. I'd focus not so much on 'dating' but just meeting new people. Never know when someone you meet is going to be the right one.

I know it certainly took me by surprise.

[CPRB]

I TOTALLY AGREE WIT CALIGULA!!! I was going to say something very similar...

[Nautilus]

Oh! There's a book out there called "how to get laid today" it teaches you how to spot horny chicks who want it right now, so you don't waste your time on the high maintenance girls.
But, if you are looking for romance and not just sex, I don't see why the tactic you used with your last girlfriend (that you talked about in a previouse thread) wouldn't work. Just find someone you like to talk to.

[Nautilus]

Or turn gay. Guys are sluts! Bwahahahaha!!!

[BrightStar]

Oh! There's a book out there called "how to get laid today" it teaches you how to spot horny chicks who want it right now, so you don't waste your time on the high maintenance girls.
But, if you are looking for romance and not just sex, I don't see why the tactic you used with your last girlfriend (that you talked about in a previouse thread) wouldn't work. Just find someone you like to talk to.

What "Tactic"? I dont remember which thread you meant.

I just do whatever.

[BrightStar]

Anyways, now to let this thread die.

[-=Asmodeus=-]

Make friends with some gay ppl...Gay men ALWAYS know a lot of free straight women...Thats how I met the girl I am with now...

[TheQuietPlace]

I dont lie.

Good for you

[pedar]

Or turn gay. Guys are sluts! Bwahahahaha!!!

how could we ever 'turn gay'? Not when there are so many nice female asses out there!-- P.

[Nautilus]

how could we ever 'turn gay'? Not when there are so many nice female asses out there!-- P.

You're an ass man, eh? Well, I see your point. You can always learn at gay school. Want a lesson?

[pedar]

I didn't say that it was an absolute formula and that there aren't the uncommon few who do find their spouse in a bar.
But once again, you are talking about two highly educated people and a decade ago.
I know quite a few couples who found each other in clubs and bars in the late 70's - early 80's are are still married today as well.
Again, different time, different circumstances and different mindset.
The average frat boy in the bar these days isn't looking for a wife, he's on the prowl for pussy, plain and simply.
And it's not that you can't meet nice people in a bar, but over consumption of alcohol leads to poor judgement.

Well if nothing else bars can be great places to get laid -- I can't blow off those experiences- but to get to the topic-I think that's true of any venue set up for meeting people- singles mixers, online dating, activity things..it's just always hard for people to romantically hook up- statistically-90 percent of the people who are attracted to you..you won't be attracted to and this is true vice versa of people who you are initially attracted to..that's the way it goes..cheers P.

[ForrestBlack]

In my opinion, you Brightstar, will be more whole once you are out on your own. I think it will fill in the areas that are causing the connections to be difficult for you to make or maintain. You know your home life is a drag and you have to ask yourself how much someone else is going to want to be a part of all that. How much are they going to want to have to hear about it or see the pain that it seems to cause you. A lot of girls like a guy that can stand on his own two feet and the ones that don't are probably bad news anyway.

[Nautilus]

In my opinion, you Brightstar, will be more whole once you are out on your own. I think it will fill in the areas that are causing the connections to be difficult for you to make or maintain. You know your home life is a drag and you have to ask yourself how much someone else is going to want to be a part of all that. How much are they going to want to have to hear about it or see the pain that it seems to cause you. A lot of girls like a guy that can stand on his own two feet and the ones that don't are probably bad news anyway.

Hell yes, Mr. Black knows his shit.

[Tequila Zaire]

In my opinion, you Brightstar, will be more whole once you are out on your own. I think it will fill in the areas that are causing the connections to be difficult for you to make or maintain. You know your home life is a drag and you have to ask yourself how much someone else is going to want to be a part of all that. How much are they going to want to have to hear about it or see the pain that it seems to cause you. A lot of girls like a guy that can stand on his own two feet and the ones that don't are probably bad news anyway.

The man makes a good point...

[BrightStar]

I agree.

[CPRB]

yeah brightsta Forrest and Caligula are right get outta your sitaution I dunno if you have ever lived on yer own but it can be scary, but seriously you will be anew man and look back on this with embarresment, but don't worry we won't judge, becasue I myself have been where you have been..I think most of us have....so as you said let this thread die

[CPRB]

[OliX]

hahaha

[TheDeathKnight]

Yeah... I forgot about that.
Guys who still live at home with their families,
are told what to do, have chores, rules, etc....
So even if you are older, if someone is telling you what to do,
you seem like a child, not a man. Girls find independent men
more attractive than people who are under parental control.

[CPRB]

or join my freakin evil empire....

[Nautilus]

Yeah... I forgot about that.
Guys who still live at home with their families,
are told what to do, have chores, rules, etc....
So even if you are older, if someone is telling you what to do,
you seem like a child, not a man. Girls find independent men
more attractive than people who are under parental control.

And vice versa, an independent lady is a must. It doesn't matter if she's legal, if she's still living with pops it feels like you're doing a little girl.