Ever had a friend who just want to take and take from you and never give anything in return? If so what do you do about it?
I have TONS of experiences with this, so I'm always on guard because I am very careful about who I truly let in my circle. I hate people who try to take advantage of others with passion. So I often would lead them on until they need me the most then let them fall onto their face hard.
This just happened tonight.
A friend of mine who texted me to asked me if she can spend the night at my place because her parents kicked her out.
Before I tell you my respond to her, let me tell you what happened between us. At first, she was a wonderful friend. She (she have or use to have a boyfriend and I'm in a relationship so nothing is going on) always text me at night to talk with me. We often meet at coffee shop before class or something very often. She'd give me ride to school if I miss bus sometime. List goes on. Eventually she broke up with her boyfriend and was really sad about it, but I always take my time to listen to her drama and truly try to be sympathy of everything. She'd text me very often to talk about her personal problem, being a good friend, I ALWAYS listen.
Then she start to complain and get upset because it seems like every guys but me (KEEP THIS IN MIND!) was trying to get in her pants nonstop. She'd often talk about how she think guy love her only to find out they just want to be friend with benefit.
At around this time, she start to distant herself from me in awkward way. She'd often make plan only to cancel them last moment. She'd come up with stupid excuse then the next day she'd talk about how she went out with friend and do stupid shit with them. Not being the type to let other people affect me, I just tell her I'm glad she had fun and stuff.
Finally she end up with a guy for about two months. During this time, she begs me to take her pictures. I agree to. She'd make appointment and I'd waste bunches of time to rush home and turn my bedroom into a photo studio which is no easy task. Four time I set it up only to have her cancel it like 30 mins before the shooting time. FINALLY I told her that it was her last chance. So she showed up, but she brought her boyfriend. I was a bit taken back, not that it bother me. It is just this isnt my house and landlord isnt too fond of having a stranger in her house. Also I don't like it when someone else come into my room/studio and walk around. It's already very crowded without extra person in. But again I say nothing. I did some shooting. I asked her for the pictures in return which she promised.
I've not heard from her for about a month and all texts I sent to her was ignored. I finally let it go. A couple days ago she texted me out of blue wanting to talk about personal problem. Again... I suck it up and talk with her. Finally I asked for pictures. She stopped replied.
Today she texted me asking me if she can stay at my place for a couple nights since her parents kicked her out.
My respond was "Well... you talked about all those guys who you hanged out with. How about you spending a couple nights with them? I'm sure they'd enjoy your company more"
If she didn't tried to take advantage of me then I could have easily helped her find a place to spend the night at where she can worry more about getting on her feet instead of how to get out of sleeping with guy/guys who she doesn't want to and still manage to have a roof over her head.
Sorry if this is a rant, but I try to make it as fun to read as possible. But if you have done anything to someone who tried to take advantage of you, please share. It's always nice to hear about leecher getting what they deserve.
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