Ok, I corrected myself!
"But hot girls can never date the guys that are openly interested in them! They have to date the super hot emotionally unavailable guys... Haha!"
Ok, I corrected myself!
"But hot girls can never date the guys that are openly interested in them! They have to date the super hot emotionally unavailable guys... Haha!"
Bingo
Damn, somehow I knew that was the answer.
I am so forward with men it often scares them away...but oh well. If they cannot handle my advances, how can they handle the rest of me?
Originally Posted by FedorasBox
that's how i feel about me... except that i'm not forward. i've been told i'm intimidating.... i'm actually just really quiet and shy! but... if a person can't handle the weird anti-social mess that i am, fuck 'em. so i guess i latch on to the people that do actually "get" me...
ok, so i'm glad to see that you guys don't think i'm completely insane for thinking that those things were potential green lights.
you've all been so helpful, really. i feel comforted.
yey warm squishy moment.
but yeah.
if i see him this weekend, we'll see if anything goes anywhere or stays as it is... or what. *hasn't heard from him yet so who knows.*
did i mention the texting until 4 am sessions? that was another thing. like who talks to anyone that long? and i *know* i said flirty things, cause that's how i do ;P
he doesn't drink at all, so none of his behaviour can be attributed to that.
the man is a complete mystery.
and i am so socially and romantically inept... >.<
if i had any money i'd start scouting out the lesbian bars.
and if i had someone to go with me. u_u i'm such a chicken shit.
You need money to go to lesbian bars? You mean to buy girls drinks, or...? I'll go to some dyke bars with you and scout. I've been told I'm a cheap date since I hardly drink.
Fact is that 2/3 of initial contact is made by woman, but the way man's ego work is that tomorrow he'll think he initiated the first contact. If you really want it to work try to reflect his body language, speech paterns, vocabulary AND extended the eye contact. I can brag about this for hours.... if anyone was interested in listening.Originally Posted by FedorasBox
I am more interested in being myself. I say what's on my mind. I am really charming, too, but I certainly dont hold back too often.Originally Posted by OliX
Sounds like he is too!Originally Posted by soma_stardust
So it may be a perfect match...
Hahaha!
This sounds like the slithering PUA underbelly of NLP.Originally Posted by OliX
Love gives me a headache. An over rated headache.
The thing that passes for love gives me a headache, too.
What's PUA? I know what's NLP but I never ventured deep into topic.Originally Posted by toxicat
There's a subset of practitioners called Pickup Artists (not an original term, but they call themselves that) who (mis)use it. They employ many of the strategies you describe to build their unholy rapport.
Oh, I get it now. The manipulators. Fuck them. I'm getting my knowledge from experience and books but I rarely misuse it.
To be honest I don't see much wrong with what they do, although it's a somewhat narrow statement of purpose. Seduction is a good thing. It breaks down unnecessary barriers people built from habit and inhibitive social programming and allows them to have fun.
Honestly, it's people so stuck on what they don't want to do that they'll regret having had a good time once external encouragement disappears that are their own problem. Our society is far too eager to celebrate inhibition and pay respect to suffering, and it keeps people looping up like that.
Well, you certainly have the right to defend the lame.
Fortunately, not everybody feels the need to use that sort of thing to break down unnecessary barriers people build from habit and inhibitive social programming.
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