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    Default How do you deal with people that insult your beliefs, ideals, and stuff you care for?

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    It aggravates me beyond belief when my father , grandmother, and other people insult all the stuff I care about, especially Gothic and Goth type stuff. Any suggestions on how to deal with that?

    my current method of dealing with that is just getting EXTREMELY PO'ed, and then walking away.

    I hate when people insult my ideals,etc...but I dont really know what to do about it, and it really aggravates me.

    Any suggestions, or am I doing the right action to take already?

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    Default Re: How do you deal with people that insult your beliefs, ideals, and stuff you care for?

    get depressed?

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    Quote Originally Posted by AmeliaG
    get depressed?
    I do that also,lol

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    Things I did when I was surrounded on all sides by racist, close-minded conservative, inclusive fuckers: Move away. Live and be the person I want to be. Surround myself with others who are nice, open-minded, caring people. Get educated. Move forward, not backward.

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    Ignore them. There's too many other things to be doing. I refuse to let myself worry about what others think of what I do or believe. Find other people to be around who DO share your beliefs.

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    Default Re: How do you deal with people that insult your beliefs, ideals, and stuff you care for?

    I always saw that as something important actually. Being challenged in what you believe in has value...even if it is done to be mean. Being around like minded people is great...but never make it exclusive. It's good to have people around who will challenge you...preferably with respect mind you...but still...those total jerks at least cause you to feel passionate or really look at what you hold faith in.

    It's a necessary evil.

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    Laugh. It makes them feel totally impotent.

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    Tequila's right. It IS important to be challenged about your beliefs and lifestyle. There are people who challenge you intellectually, with respect & caring, but there are those who are just plain mean, narrow-minded, and abusive. Of course it makes your skin thicker and your spirit stronger being around mean fuckers, but I don't think abuse is necessary. There is a world out there with people who will challenge you, who won't be mean to you, even if they're different from you. But in my case I got so fed up, angry, and bored... and left. I think it was the best decision I ever made for myself.

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    Either ignore them, show them my jack nicholson-smile and laugh, or beat the living shit out of them. Always depends on the situation...

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    Swift kick to the shin.

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    I smile and tell them thank you motherfucker

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    My reply is usually, "That's okay. I didn't ask for your approval." And walk away.

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    laugh and say 'did you know that goth is dutch for God?'

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    Check religioustolerance org and seek on goths..

    *mumbls sumthing bout... Damn url-disfunkt.. *

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    Quote Originally Posted by fashion
    Check religioustolerance org and seek on goths..

    *mumbls sumthing bout... Damn url-disfunkt.. *
    Im not sure whether to be angry or not at that.

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    Default Re: How do you deal with people that insult your beliefs, ideals, and stuff you care for?

    i found that my mom was more excepting of me when i sat her down and talked about who i was on the inside. the outside is just my way of showing it. my dark side was hard to take at frist but most people can see me now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Belladonna
    i found that my mom was more excepting of me when i sat her down and talked about who i was on the inside. the outside is just my way of showing it. my dark side was hard to take at frist but most people can see me now.
    Wouldnt work with my family. It is quite possibly for my father to beat the shite out of me for even saying hello, of disagreeing with him in any way.

    I almost got beat senseless today, simply for eating food.

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    Default Re: How do you deal with people that insult your beliefs, ideals, and stuff you care for?

    It depends on the situation and how it's done and all that.

    I have no problem with chewing people out for their bigotries and misconceptions, but then there are other times when it's best to keep one's mouth shut (like, say, on the job -- if you want to keep said job).

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    I usually tell them to have a coke and a smile and shut the fuck up.

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    Default Re: How do you deal with people that insult your beliefs, ideals, and stuff you care for?

    Kill them with kindness. I try my best to just smile and tell them to have a good day, ect...Not letting people see what gets to you is always a great way to get back at them. From all the experiances that I have had if I just do those few things it screws them up because they get no reaction out of me except for joy.

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    Default Re: How do you deal with people that insult your beliefs, ideals, and stuff you care for?

    Ohh.. Just wanted to share some common thourts about others. There are and will always be these comments about how we look, how we act and how we think, even how we walks, where we goes at night. I say.. go for an proper "sit down" session and try to let them see things from your point of wiew. I usually wears black and are shaved. I often get these looks like.. "Hes a fucking skinhead"?!! .. Ha?!! Now.. I have never sympatised with the right wing. Ohh no. I mean that some of us walks on the boarderline because we wants the oppinion. Ok. I do understand your feeling here. What i can try to help you with is allready posted. Love and kindness. The family are so annoying sometimes with theirs comments and when i recall my safetypin in my chin (dont ask) so do i remember that time with a big lauf but I didnt lauf at the time.

    Talk to them. Dont accept comments and bullying as an average day thing. Explain that even real nerds - programmers can be labeled as goths. Stand up for the cause, the things you believe in.
    The idea is still that we want to show what we are and what we like here in life.
    I may speak for myselfe but we do dress like this and do like some kind of no-mainstream sort of music because we know better.

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