How do you deal with chameleon type people who will seem like you have tons in common with you, but then someone totally different from you will think that person has tons in common with them?
I mean, I think I am pretty multifaceted and there are people I really like and relate to who do not have much in common with one another.
But I do not totally change my opinions, worldview, and personal history to relate to different sorts of people. I just relate to varied personalities because I have so far lived a life with a lot of variety.
I seem to sometimes attract the sort of yes-man kind of people who try to always say what is desired, rather than what they truly mean or feel. Some of them, I think, do not truly have an opinion on anything, other than what they soak up from those around them.
But I think I am sometimes suspicious that someone is just stroking me, when really they are being totally genuine and there is a real human connection there.
How does one distinguish between people who are just spouting what they think you will want to hear and will be spouting what the other guy wants to hear next week and the the real deal?
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