what exactly...

[Pull~My~Hair]

What exactly Do you consider cheating??? Do you think men and women have two different ideas? Does it depend on the relationship? If So, in your relationship what would you consider cheating. Is having an emotional relationship behind your S.O.s back just as bad as a physical...or worse?

[cheinara wraithwalker]

I've been screwed over too many times to not have a puritan view of this issue.

[killerkat]

yea , i too have no idea how to respond to this.....

sorry....

[Pull~My~Hair]

I've been screwed over too many times to not have a puritan view of this issue.

Lol me too...at this point hes not allowed to talk to a female, I found out about two weeks ago that he was having phone sex via text message with a girl we used to know, who lives in another state..he almost lost me and his baby...he now knows that if he fucks up again hes out on his ass...Im not taking any chances, if he was willing to do that who knows what situations it could've lead to...so I feel the same way I guess

[Pull~My~Hair]

yea , i too have no idea how to respond to this.....

sorry....

sokay..any particular reason?

[devil13]

cheating is whatever you agree that it is. I have had girls who hated me looking at girls in magazines and I have had an open relationship with others. I believe that cheating is doing anything with someone else when its not O.K. or agreed upon with the person your with.

[TheDeathKnight]

Cheating is anything you are not honest about.

Ideally, he should be honest with you, and tell you when he is interested in doing something with someone else. Regardless if that is phone sex, porn, or actual fucking around.

The only way to build that trust up, is to have him keep telling you what he thinks about, and the things he wants to do. Who he thinks is hot, etc... If he can get comfortable with sharing that stuff, and you don't freak out about it, then you should be ok. But people tend to keep their sexual interests and activities private. That's the thing you have to break the habit of. You have to share what you like, and want, and do... Then at least you will have knowledge of any "cheating" thoughts or ideas, before they actually do something. But if you keep him on this tight leash, he's just going to be more secretive, because he knows you will blow your top if you find out. So he's going to lie more often about his thoughts and feelings, even if he isn't screwing around at all. BLowing up at someone is the best way to encourage them to lie to you. People think that threat of the blow up will keep them in line. But you can't always keep guys in line. Or girls for that matter. But if you blow up about it, people will lie about it. You have to make people comfortable with sharing what they think and feel and do... Wheter you like it or not...

[Tequila Zaire]

Cheating is simple...whatever a woman considers cheating by her own defenition is cheating...as a guy you rarely get a say in it...even when you're the one cheated on.

[TheDeathKnight]

The thing I think is lame, is people making stupid rules about what is cheating, and what is not. Which pretty much means for most people, that they can do anything other than fucking, and it's not cheating, in their rulebook. Blowjobs are ok, anal sex is ok, kissing is ok, etc, etc... Only straight up SEX is cheating....

That's BULLSHIT.

It did not work for Bill Clinton, and it does not work for anyone else.

Cheating is anything you do not mention to the other person you are with.
What you need to do, is make an agreement to share these kinds of things.
If you make that kind of an agreement off the bat, then you can be mad
if they don't tell you something. Otherwise, be prepared for the fact that
many people lie their asses off, and do all kinds of shit behind your back.

[devil13]

you have to make rules though. think of it this way = if your girl got together with another girl would you consider it cheating? some guys would some wouldnt. but if she got together with another guy it would defenitely be cheating unless you where ok with her getting together with other guys. relationships are whatever you want them to be as long as everyone involved is ok with the circumstances. if you are not ok with it than you can either work it out or find someone who is ok with your views and rules.

[Pull~My~Hair]

I figure anything you feel you have to hide is cheating. If you lie about it, then you obviously feel like you did something wrong, or you obviously know your SO would be pissed about it

[malcolm]

honestly, I think any form of endearment towards another person aside from your significant othe ris considerd cheating. But I dont care if my girlfriend cheats on me (she's bi) I've told her as long as she doesnt leave me for anyone and atleast is honest about it, i dont care. I woulnt be a fan of it but I dont car ebecause she's atleast honest about it. I wouldnt unless it was a manage and even then, I wont kiss anyone but her because I feel kissing is more intimate than sex.