Getting Back Together

[Spaceman Spiff]

I liked the strait forward facts.

Facts:
1. Ninjas are mammals.
2. Ninjas fight ALL the time.
3. The purpose of the ninja is to flip out and kill people.

[Buster Friendly]

wow I'm almost a ninja!!! (it's tough not being a mamal though.)

Scar- that poor boy is confused right now... he's a chickenshit, not necessarily a jerk... he feels like a dork, and the more idiotic stuff he does, the harder it is for him to recover, so it's easier to run away (hmmm, and how would Buster know any of this?)

so here's what you're going to do...

...Start Stalking him... show up everywhere he goes, with little funny, but completely pointless, and slightly disturbing gifts... the more inappropriet the better. and wear disguises

call him up at random hours of the day, and night, and in the middle of any conversation make complete non-sequitors, hijacking the conversation, and forcing him to play by a completely new set of rules he hasn't learned yet...

break into his house and place fresh organ meats like whole calves livers on his tv screen, and leave the message "You had me at ____ (what ever the last random thing he said to you was.) xoxoxox you know who..."

start an elaborate campgain of leafletting, and flyers making up complex xeroxed posters with heavy collaging with sources culled from old masonic texts, history books, romance novels, clip art from old advertizments, and disturbing bits of his personal information that only he'll understand...

(this probably stopped being funny a while back, but what the hell...)

OR just talk to him honestly asking him what's up, and letting him know why you're impressed lately, and to give you a call when he's ready...

...basically what everybody else said... (but in case you decide to stalk him, I want a producer cred at your hearing...)

[Scar]

Man, I started reading your responses and was thinking "oh how nice and sensative you all are!" then I starteed laughing. This is how the past few days have been for me. Happy sad happy sad back and forth. But I have figured things out, sometimes when someone totally blows you off it shows you a lot about them. It's kind of a wake up call. Actions speak louder than words, I have always been a firm believer, and if any of my friends were in my position I would give them this advice:

Move on to bigger and better things, you deserve a lot more. If someone wants to be with you they will, if it's only good in theory it's not worth much. You can allow yourself to be treated well, or you can accept something less. If you accept less then the course of your life will follow. You will lead yourself to disappointment time and again because when it comes you don't turn it down. If you refuse to be disappointed, then something better will follow, and you can take that instead.

SO THERE!

I guess that is what I will do. I have high standards on who I allow to be in my life, and I am not going to compensate because someone evokes emotion in me. I have always had an easy time having fun, but true meaningful experiences are few and far between. There is no way to create them, just to embrace them when they come along. So I will wait for something better. I am quite well adjusted to being single and being alone, in fact I have a great time doing it. So why give it up to be tied down to someone who can't fulfill me just as much as I can fullfill myrself?

I do kinda feel like a dumb ass chick for allowing myself to get toyed with though...

[Tequila Zaire]

I do kinda feel like a dumb ass chick for allowing myself to get toyed with though...

We all get toyed with from time to time...can't help it cause farnkly we allow it out of hope...and sometimes that's all we have.

That said...I doubt you'll have trouble finding that one meaningful person...and I'm not saying that cause you're a knockout...I'd be dumb of me to state the obvious...you've simply proven you're smart enough to know what to look for and what you want.

When it'll happen though...well hell that's half the fun right?

[Buster Friendly]

good for you ::golf::clap::

never doubted you for a second, TZ is right you're not just goregous, you're obviously very intelligent to boot... you'll find some one who's just right before too long...

when folks start to flake on me I figure they've got their priorities straight, so I adjust mine accordingly (as in taking into account the lack of respect, and desire to see me their behavior reflects, and planning to spend time with folks who have shown an active interest in my company instead.)

I still think you should stalk him though... mow his lawn... in disguise!!!

[MistressJennifer]

Well, don't listen to me, I always put up with them. I just keep em... I just keep all of them!!! Just put some of them on the back burner... The thing is, I LIKE mean boys... Sometimes. I THINK I like them. I do and I don't... As long as I know it's a game, and I am playing the game, it's not REAL. But that's kind of hard to do, especially when you fall in love with them. Then you just pretend that you don't care... But that is what I end up doing all the time.

[TheDeathKnight]

I totally agree with Scar on her advice to herself.

Hahaha!

Especially the fact that you need to adjust things, to match how someone
treats you. If they treat you well, keep them around. If they blow you off,
then don't bother with them. If someone loves you, they will keep you
informed. If they need some time alone, fine. Call, and let you know first...

Being able to be alone is the best tool in the world.
If you can be happy alone, then you can only accept things
into your life that *improve* your life. You want to *add*
sex and love, but you don't want to lose things like independence
and self-respect. When somone joins you life, even as a friend,
they should not make your life more complicated, or more dramatic.
They should make things more fun, more enjoyable, etc...
If they make your life worse, get them away from you, and go
back to being alone, or hanging out with people who you get
along with. But dealing with drama is not worth it...

[jason]

for some people such as me i don't know exactly how to go about that
there was this one girl that i was with for a while and she ended up breaking up with me because after school crap was so much more important and i wasn't.

I don't know why i wanted to get back with her so badly oh yeah i was in love with the girl i still am it's just that she doesn't want to be with me anymore and doesn't even want to amitt that she still wants to be with me i just miss all of what we used to have and know it's gone and i want to be with someone who can make me feel such as she did but even more so now than she did.

I just wish i could end this stupid curse of being with girls i don't want to be with maybe just be happy and know what love is and never lose it but rather go thru all the hardships of being in a loving relasionship but still be maddly in love with her and not have to worry about losing that person but still have an apreciation for her and and i better stop just repeating the same thing over and over again

i just want to be happy!!??????????!!

[TheDeathKnight]

You'll find plenty of girls who want what you want.