sexual preference

[CherryCola]

this has nothing to do with whos done this really but Jenna Jameson is now apprently straight..after reading her book and being a long time fan I find that...odd...so opinions

can you change your sexual orientation/preference?, are you just born that way? Can it change with time?

[Morning Glory]

i'm really starting to not like her. it seems like her carreer is bombing and she's just desperate to use any gimick to stay in the spotlight. she's had her time in the sun, it was the 90's.

[Jebadiah]

Didn't David Bowie do that too? I believe his reasoning was that he was so much into his seen, and adrogenie being part of that, that being gay or bi just went with it.

Do you believe in the gay/straight scale? I know if I had a another piont towards being gay I would've tried it, and two pionts I would be doing anyone anytime.

[Camby Savelle]

I think you can. I mean people change. Sometimes overtime something you find exciting and fun becomes boring a dull, even to the point you want nothing to do with it anymore.

I mean some guys like to bang every chick they ever meet and then they come to a point when they dont want to anymore, they just want to settle down with one girl.

Have you ever been attracted to someone alot at one point and then a year later they haven't changed at all but you're just not attracted to them anymore? I think it's kind of like that.

[evilstonermonkey]

sexuality, i think, is like all aspects of human nature - its fluid. what we like in some people, we dont like in others - for example, some people might find that certain women have a bit too much penis to be attractive, whereas if that hooker had been fully female my mother would still axknowledge me as her son. but seriously, what people like changes as they change, and everybody changes constantly.

a question - if a gay man falls in love with a woman who acts and looks just like a man in all aspects except a trouserbulge, is the man still gay? i mean like a macho-masculine tomboy (and i know a gal just like this... scary broad that she is). on the techinical level, not really, but on a mental and emotional level...

anyway, just in case i start to sound like i actually think at times, im going to sign off now with this parting wisdom: lezzos r teh hawt.

[evilstonermonkey]

oh, and on the whole jenna jameson thing - yeah, shes getting all the attention she can before she gets too old to get it the pr0n0 way.

[the_darkness_calls]

I think your orientation can change with time, for the aforementioned reasons. And I do believe in some sort of "gay scale", because I think, for example, you can be bi but lean more towards one or the other.

And yeah, Jenna Jameson, man.... I agree with MG. nuff said.

[CherryCola]

to me sexuality is..chemical probally not the right word to use but i believe its just the way you are. maybe you can change over time but i dont see why it would if its biological and not choice.
Sexuality to me is beinging sexualy attarcted to whatever sex no matter if you act on it or not.

I think a guy cud have a wife and kids and still be gay. its whatever makes you tick inside.

As for jj she duz seem to be changing maybe its her age but hey its her life.
I'll always look up to her even if its just to the old school jj.

[WickedFaire2007]

can you change your sexual orientation/preference?, are you just born that way? Can it change with time?

Can you change your sexual orientation/preference?

...no, I don't think you can change it. That to me implies that you can conciously make yourself be attracted to someone you're not or not attracted to someone you are and I just don't believe that's possible.

I do, however, think you can change what you consider your sexual preference to be and the way you identify yourself. For example, a person may decide that they are comfortable enough with their sexuality to be Bisexual rather than Bicurious or may realize and be ready to admit to themselves that they really feel a certain way and change the way they identify, but no, I don't believe they're actually changing their orientation/preference themselves, just changing how they identify.

But as for the question... .Can it change with time?

...yes, I think it can. I think as you grow and develop and change as a person in every other aspect of your life you can grow and change and develop in your sexuality too. So, yes, it can change over time... sometimes gradually and sometimes dramatically.

The difference....? I believe it can over time change on it's own, but I don't believe you can conciously change it, even if you try.

[Scar]

I konw for myself I have always liked both men and woman, as early as 13 I was already attracted to girls. However, I consider myself bent. If gay were pointing straight up, and bisexual was at 90 degreed, I'd be at 45. There are times when I am not really into playing with girls, and other times when I can't get enough of them. So I guess because of that, I think yes, your sexual preferences can change. Jenna's intentions in her adjustment, however, are a mystery to me......

[Black Spiral Dancer]

My experience is that people experiment with their sexuality to see what they prefer. I haven't done it myself, since I've never been curious about having sex with men, but I do know some girls and boys who have tried the whole gay/bi thing before settling for hetrosexuality. I know one girl, dumped her husband and then went through a string of male and female partners. She has settled, for the moment with a bloke, but she seems to get bored after about a month or so, so she's due to dump him soon.

[LoraLie]

Well . . . . your tastes change over time so . . . . I suppose so . . .

I think you can but I dont know about JJ. : /
anything tos tay in the spotlight i suppose.

[ScarlettSin]

I dunno. Personally, my preference is Yes.

I say if a person believes, feels in their heart that they are a certain way, be it a sexual preference or a favourite colour, than that is the way they feel.I have no place to comment on some one else's preferences. Do I, in my heart of hearts, believe that you can change something like sexual preference just by saying it? No. No more can I change the colour of the sky by telling you it's green. Some things are unchangeable. I'm short with blue eyes and blond hair. I can wear contacts and high heels and dye my hair till it all falls out, but at the end of it, i'm short with blond hair and blue eyes.

So, just curious CherryCola, Where exactly did you find this info? I know Jenna has a tenancy to date, and even be married to guys but I don't necessarily think that she's completely straight. I mean, I have husband but I'm still into the ladies.

S

[StolenName]

Well, I'm not sure it's a natural thing, necessary, a conversion etc.

To be honest, I think there'd be alot more guys that would experiment with guys if there was less stigmata and fear about being gay/bi or whatever. I typically prefer women alot more than men but I've begun experimenting lately and find that it's not so bad. If I had to choose I'd just stick with the girls but hey, I got curious and don't really mind either now. Though as I said before, I prefer feminine blokes as opposed to the macho ones.

In the end though, I don't think it matters. I won't be dating any guys cause I just don't feel on that level. One of my female friends put it pretty well, "there's nothing wrong with guys fucking guys, not knowing or being bi or whatever. If I like a woman I'll fuck 'em and not think about it but I prefer men generally. And guys with guys seems more natural anyway, even if you're [talking to me bout my bi-tendancy] not really attracted to them I think it's just natural you'd want to experiment with other sexually charged people. And I think you're one of those very sexually charged people haha"

As for bi/gay women to straight, who knows. Nicole has just broken up with a girl she was with for quite a while and then went on a string of guys/girls (the guys surprised many people) shes just kinda going with the flow. In the end she'd prefer to be with a woman but shes just enjoying sex as it comes in all its forms.

[evilstonermonkey]

the people you fall inlove with are the people you fall in lvoe with. you love their personality and their mind, not their gender. the people you find sexy you find sexy, and if they happen to be of the same sex as you then whatever. you dont control it and you never will. you can choose to not follow up on those feelings if you arent comfortable with them, but regardless you will still feel them. theres no straight or gay, just 'right now i would love to bang a woman' or 'dammit, i could really go a hunky spunk tonight.' tomorrow it may all be different.

[CherryCola]

I dunno. Personally, my preference is Yes.

I say if a person believes, feels in their heart that they are a certain way, be it a sexual preference or a favourite colour, than that is the way they feel.I have no place to comment on some one else's preferences. Do I, in my heart of hearts, believe that you can change something like sexual preference just by saying it? No. No more can I change the colour of the sky by telling you it's green. Some things are unchangeable. I'm short with blue eyes and blond hair. I can wear contacts and high heels and dye my hair till it all falls out, but at the end of it, i'm short with blond hair and blue eyes.

So, just curious CherryCola, Where exactly did you find this info? I know Jenna has a tenancy to date, and even be married to guys but I don't necessarily think that she's completely straight. I mean, I have husband but I'm still into the ladies.

S

i 100% agree with you

its from a discussion on her livejournal fan group community thing

xxx

[TheDeathKnight]

I was under the impression that a lot of the girls in porn, who end up doing only girl/girl is because their boyfriends don't like them doing guy/girl scenes. And if you tell everyone you are lesbian, you look like a liar or a hipocrit by suddenly saying you aren't one anymore. My guess is that she is hoping to cash in on people being interested in seeing her in guy/girl scenes.

[CherryCola]

im pretty sure shes quiting porn she sold club jenna to playboy a while back.

lots of industry girls end up doing girl girl if they have a serious bf who isnt cool with seeing them with another guy but sumtimes the girl duz girl scenes only cause she wants no man other than the one shes with.

[Kat]

can you change your sexual orientation/preference?, are you just born that way? Can it change with time?

I think that sexual orientation and preference are two different things. Orientation being whether youre attracted to one sex, both, or something else; preference being which you are most attracted to at any given time.

My opinion is that your orientation essentially stays the same, and the preference is what can change over time

[CherryCola]

your right really orientation indicates no choice in the matter where as preferance duz

[Velvet-Tongue]

Like everything in life, it depends upon the person.

[TheDeathKnight]

And obviously, if you spend a lot of your life having sex with both males and females, it means she has a pretty open mind about it. I think someone like that would have a lot more of a clear picture about their own sexual orientation, than some people who have never crossed over, or only done it a couple of times...