would you marry someone who asked for a pre-nup?

[karyn]

would you marry someone who asked for a pre-nup? would you think it was unromantic and sign they were not serious or did not really love you?

[Ace]

If I got married, it would (presumably) be for life, and pre-nup wouldn't matter so much. If I had anything of value, though, I'd probably get a pre-nup to protect myself and my interests as well.

[a_small_death]

I would get a pre-nup just to keep from the dreaded I want half routine when you don't even have 1/4 to give.

[Amelia G]

I've had good friends who did pre-nups and ones who maybe suffered for not having them, but I kind of think I wouldn't marry anyone who wanted a just-in-case-this-totally-doesn't-work-out safety net.

[GnArKiLL]

I've had good friends who did pre-nups and ones who maybe suffered for not having them, but I kind of think I wouldn't marry anyone who wanted a just-in-case-this-totally-doesn't-work-out safety net.

says the woman....

[Amelia G]

says the woman....

Says the woman who is way better at work than cleaning. I cook all right, but it is a limited selection.

Says the woman who has dated both super rich individuals who were not going to make it for the long term and broke ass individuals who were not going to make it for the long term.

I actually don't think that anyone, male or female, should get alimony for longer than it takes to go to college and in some cases grad school. After that, any man or women should be able to take care of him or her self.

[One Eyed Cat]

Hell, I'd write the pre-nup

OEC

[Amelia G]

Hell, I'd write the pre-nup

OEC

Disclaimer: I am not an attorney and this is not to be construed as legal advice, but . . .


Dude, don't write it yourself. Have someone your woman chooses write the pre-nup and make sure you read it or, no matter how brilliant she is (and I don't see you picking a dumb girl), a court could find that she didn't know what she was signing and just trusted her lawyer hubby.

[One Eyed Cat]

Disclaimer: I am not an attorney and this is not to be construed as legal advice, but . . .


Dude, don't write it yourself. Have someone your woman chooses write the pre-nup and make sure you read it or, no matter how brilliant she is (and I don't see you picking a dumb girl), a court could find that she didn't know what she was signing and just trusted her lawyer hubby.

I was joking. That wouldn't be ethical under any circumstances. It would get thrown out.

[helcyon]

Pre-nups are not legal or binding in Australia. You are just liable the same way for all. Basically you cannot write a binding contract for something without a basis in Australian law just 'cos you feel like it should be an Australian law. You can't just override the law with a contract just because you want to. Sure you can write a pre-nup but it won't hold up here. And de-facto relationships count the same as real marriages I think.

I've never been actually married and still I drink a lot. If I got married I think my liver would melt.

[Amelia G]

I was joking. That wouldn't be ethical under any circumstances. It would get thrown out.

I figured you probably knew that, but better safe than sorry.

[OrganizedKhaos]

I got married without a prenup does that count as a stance?...

[Head Wreck]

I'm a bit "hmm" on the topic

a marriage survives through communication and trust. but yet as good as i am at analysing behaviour and pinning peoples motives down fast, i always get a bit blind to that when twitterpatted and have had some very disastrous relationships that in hindsight i have to say "thank fuck i didn't fall fully into romantic idiot mode".

[Bikerpunk]

A marriage lasts, according to the research, so long as the woman wants it to.

When she realises it isn't fun anymore and she can have his money anyway, she files for divorce.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20080602/...s_bachelors_dc

^-- Ya think?

[Head Wreck]

now thats just bitter and cynical...kind of how i most commonly think of people in general, but not everyone falls in that category.


but somebody please point me in their direction

[Bikerpunk]

now thats just bitter and cynical...kind of how i most commonly think of people in general, but not everyone falls in that category.


but somebody please point me in their direction

Wake up and look at divorce statistics.

Ever wonder why it's an OFT repeated joke "you never truly know a woman til you meet her in divorce court?"

[Mr Karl]

I suppose I'd have to think about getting married first

[OrganizedKhaos]

I think prenup's good for the most part... but for the other... I think its just as fine without it.

[Bikerpunk]

Marriage is the most one-sided contract since the days in which people with light coloured skin were allowed to buy and sell people with dark coloured skin.

There is no reason whatsoever for a man to get married.

[Mr Karl]

I'll never understand why people must do it

[OrganizedKhaos]

I think a marriage is a vow not a piece of paper.

[Bikerpunk]

I think a marriage is a vow not a piece of paper.

What it is is a very legal and binding fucking contract that lasts long after she's decided she'd rather keep your money and get fucked by someone else, if you're unlucky enough to find someone who decides to do it.

[OrganizedKhaos]

Depends on the person really.
I'm marrying for life.... if something happens to my husband, and I dont die of grief, I'll hook up with a woman, not another man.

[OrganizedKhaos]

For the record, even though I dont know the whole story, I can understand empathetically why you're sour.

[Head Wreck]

divorce...

i'm one of the rare kids in my area who grew up with both perents, 90% of people were fromdivored or seperated backgrounds.

divorce is admission of defeat. that you couldn't read personality beforehand or something went wrong with the basics of any relationship

trust, respect, compromise, effort.

people want the easy route to often,

[Amelia G]

Marriage is the most one-sided contract since the days in which people with light coloured skin were allowed to buy and sell people with dark coloured skin.

There is no reason whatsoever for a man to get married.

If the relationship is going to last, a man getting married makes it more real and more likely to last than just shacking up.

If the man wants kids, it does make a difference if they have his name and are born in wedlock.

[Senior_Diablo]

i have no desire to get married. or at least not until im much older. but if some woman wanted me to sign a pre-nup i would just see it as them not having much confidence that it would last. that would just nag at me, i think..

[Bikerpunk]

If the relationship is going to last, a man getting married makes it more real and more likely to last than just shacking up.

If the man wants kids, it does make a difference if they have his name and are born in wedlock.

Not really - they're hers, legally, no matter what. He's just obligated to pay for them, whether they were married or not.

[VoltaireBlue]

I would never marry someone who didn't trust me or love me enough and wanted a pre-nup. I'm pretty old fashioned. if I ever get married it'll be forever.