advice for me on asking out hot chicas

[malcolm]

I know Im a sappy-sick whiny little bitch of a man. lol but I was wondering is ther any advice on asking out hot atractive women that workls you all can give me?

see, i have this problkem around attractive women, I freeze up-clam up and just stutter. Im a riot to watch at a strip club.

I think it has to do with the fact I've never been good around women (30 plus bad relationships and counting)and Ive always been one to settle for whomever will take me because I dont think im attractive enough to be with a pretty woman. (I think im ugly)

my agent says he's gonna help me work on that by getting me some shoots with hot women and thats all good but are there any advice out there by some of yall that works? asides from be yourself because I am a little too odd for todays taste

[drewblood]

hmmm. well malcolm, there's lots of advice... but taking into account what you project through a message board, here's my take.... and really it all comes down to 1 word.... confidence. You seem to want to talk through a lot of things and verbalize your thought process. That's all well and good in a lot of areas of life, but sometimes it isnt exactly attractive to chicks who want the strong, confident male which is what a lot of 'hot chicas' are probably looking for. Dont get me wrong, it's not an easy game for us guys to play... you dont want to seem like a sex-craved aggro neanderthal bonehead. But there is a fine line between the sensitive, in-touch-with-his-emotions guy and the pansy-ass, needs constant re-assurance and guidance guy. I guess to sum it all up, try asserting yourself as someone who's figured a lot of 'it' out instead of someone who is still struggling with 'it'...whatever 'it' may be.

Just my 2 cents bro.... fuck do I know though... maybe you should just get drunk, lick her neck, smack her ass and see what kind of reaction you get.

[TheDeathKnight]

You just have to relax.

Why do you get so nervous and uncomfortable?

Talk to them like you'd talk to a good friend you have known for years.

I think you are worring too much about the outcome.
What's the worse that could happen?
They aren't interested? Ok, so what? At least you tried...

I really think that being relaxed, and having confidence, and not giving a shit,
is your best tool in being comfortable with making conversation. If you can
talk without being uncomfortable, then you can go from there...

You just gotta relax about it.

I think a lot of guys think too much about what they should say,
if they are approaching a girl for the first time. Don't think about it!
Just be natural. Talk about what you want to talk about. Be honest.
If you are talking to her because you thought she was really pretty,
then tell her so. And tell her you decided to talk to her, to see if
you could get to know her better. And if she says she has a boyfriend
or something, then just say thanks for talking, and that you really
do think she's really pretty. Just be honest, and RELAX...

[malcolm]

and how much does any of this work? any field testing to prov eit? I have a confidence problem with attractive women because of junior high school.
pizza faced, out of style, gawky, skinny, not hip. (I just moved from scarizona to tennessee)
and all the pretty girls thought I was a dork.

[malcolm]

oh! and I already know dont go aksing a blue blood model from texas if theyd been in a magazine on instant message. I learned that one the hard way-and I think they know who they are. sorry if I scared you off. i didnt remember who you were. lol honestly.

[drewblood]

if you're living in states like tenn then you may be beyond help my friend. let's bring it down a notch.... try stuffing a sock in your underwants.

[killerkat]

Don't........

just be yourself,and a girl will come along that will blow your legs(or socks) off.........

[devil13]

[malcolm]

I dont live in tennessee anymore. back in scarizona. land of the flat titties and 16 year old moms. lol

[TheDeathKnight]

Also, don't hit up girls who are out of your league.

[malcolm]

that defeats the purpose of my question. lol

[Tequila Zaire]

Also, don't hit up girls who are out of your league.

Unless you have serious amounts of $$$ or power. Then you can have your pick be it by grace, seduction, or force.

[KilLAtomiK]

whatever you do just remember this, Women can see through your crap so be real and be yourself. it took me a while to learn this lesson

["Chosen"]

First let me you tell one thing there is no such thing as out of your league. Thats first and foremost so get any idea of that concept out of your head right now because if anything it will set you back. Second of all is confidence. You have to come across as confident in what you are saying and just all around secure in yourself as a person. If you feel like a loser and it shows it will come across clear as day, if you are nervous it will come across clear as day so I mean just go in to it confident and be yourself and you should be alright. And if you get shot down dont sweat it there are more females in this country than there are males so just pick your head up and keep on going. Its really not that hard to get a female off of initial approach if you can figure them out as a person by picking up a vibe or something like that so it will give you an idea how to approach the female in question. Me personally I have never had a hard time approaching females and getting somewhere with them but thats because I know what to say and how to say it. But yea man confidence is the key and just know that there is no reason for you to be nervous just go in there and get the girl man. And like I said if it dont work dont sweat it just shake it off and move on. Now stop faking and go get the girl and tell us all about her when you do

[grebo]

alcohol helps, but not to much. sugary stuff too, because itll make you hyper but drunk.

[Hellmo]

these dudes have it right
i like confidence, something a bit different and quirky. i dont like arrogance.. but a little self assuracne gets you a long way.
a glass of wine helps too

[scabre]

wine
confidence
be yourself.. if the lady wants you, she will have you.. dont pretend to be someome esle ( its easy to do sometimes.. you dont even realise you are doin it)

[TheDeathKnight]

I made the "out of your league" comment, because he seems to make a lot of comments about strippers, blue-blood models, porno actresses, etc...

Some guys get all obsessed over the hottest girls out there, and spend all their time trying to pick up on those kinds of girls. I did that back in High School. I was only attracted to the hottest girls in school. Because they were the hottest. But I was a loser. So there was no chance. But there were probably plenty of "regular" girls who would have been willing to go out with me. But I was too focused on wanting a really hot chick... But they were too busy dating the quarterback of the football team, the student body president, etc... Now sure, confidence helps. But a lot of the really hot girls have really high expectations, because they can get whatever they want. So they can go after the hottest guys, the richest guys, and the coolest guys. Because they know they are hot, and know they can use their body to get someone's attention. So they are often not interested in a slightly shy loser who might have the confidence to come up to them. It does not matter how much confidence you have, if you are still living at home, have no money, etc... A really hot girl is not going to want that, because they can do better... I'm not saying it never happens, but I just think that Malcom may be aiming a little out of his league, and getting nervous, because the girls are so hot. If you want those really hot girls, you have to figure out what they want. It may not always be money or looks. But you'd better join a band, or do something exciting, because you have to offer those kind of girls something special. They get loser guys hitting on them all day long. They aren't interested...

[Pull~My~Hair]

just from a womans point of view, you seem like a really really nice guy. so it is just being able to project that without it gettin skewed in the process.
I panic when I talk to anyone, it's social anxiety...I sound like a complete fucking moron, I keep talking and the more I talk the less sense I make....Im way better at writing or typing....sounds like you have the same problem. I'll let you know when I find a way to fix it (:

[Toe Cutter]

...not giving a shit...

That's my angle. When in doubt I just act bored with an indifferent grin on my face.

I don't know how well it works, but I was given some advice some time ago. It goes like this 'Treat queens like whores, and whores like queens'.

[Tequila Zaire]

That's my angle. When in doubt I just act bored with an indifferent grin on my face.

I don't know how well it works, but I was given some advice some time ago. It goes like this 'Treat queens like whores, and whores like queens'.

That sounds about right.

[inox]

Yeah, what he said.

[drewblood]

i'm thinking maybe Malcolm should take another approach.

[Toe Cutter]

i'm thinking maybe Malcolm should take another approach.

[cheinara wraithwalker]

I always enjoyed the people that didn't try to impress me or hang on every word I said. All the guys in my friend group did that, but my husband was different. He treated me like I was a normal person, which was nice. He wasn't an ass, he was just real. He wasn't like "Oh, Felicia, you're the greatest and can do no wrong." He understood I was human and imperfect, and that's why I liked him, and later loved him. Someone that understands that about you, will accept you and your imperfections. Someone that worships you, however, will become very disenchanted once they find out that you're no longer a god/goddess because you can and will do something wrong eventually.

[drewblood]

lol. i'm sure forrest is going to give me an atomic butt slam for that one.

[Evilbink]

Put on a wedding ring and act like you couldn't give a shit, and they will come to you.

Women can't resist the temptation of forbidden fruit. (it's their nature)

[TheDeathKnight]

Hahaha!

[cheinara wraithwalker]

Hahaha women suck hahaha

[killerkat]

yup.....

[Evilbink]

Hahaha women suck hahaha

Thank goodness

[vixta]

well, the best advice i can give is to try and find out something that you have in common and try to bring it up - that way you already have a rapport going and the clamming up is easier to avoid. you also get to use the shite line 'do you want to talk about this over a drink?' without sounding like an arsehole. do try to keep it away from work/the situation in which you met though.

[malcolm]

I made the "out of your league" comment, because he seems to make a lot of comments about strippers, blue-blood models, porno actresses, etc...

dude. read this very very very carefully: I WORK IN PORNO MOVIES. IM A PORN ACTOR. women in porn are not out of my league cuz I get payed to fuck them . whatever, was just asking advice, not jokes.
thanx for theadvice guys. i have a feeling I may not be needing it with the way the ladies lie to look at my ass nowadays Im feeling so fucking good right now i coul just kiss everyone of you! lol
whose up for cookis and beer? lol

[malcolm]

drew, what the hell is rohypnol? is that like viagra or something? I dont even take aspirin....occassinal pepeprmint gas shot but thats about it. lol love ya all the same baby! yeah! woo!

[Camby Savelle]

heres the deal.

you tell me what the fuck a C.H.U.D. is and I will tell you the answers you need to know?

and you live in apache junction, I know one thing about there...there is a shitload of attractive women.

[Tequila Zaire]

drew, what the hell is rohypnol?!

It's what's known as "The Date **** Drug". Basicly knocks the victim out and makes it pretty hard for them to remember what happens...really fucked up stuff.

Popular in the college scene and used by some less than honorable men for assorted fucked up purposes.

[Ryuken-Kai]

dude, if thats you in the pics, then you have no reason to worry....you are definitely not ugly.....I'm not just saying that either, if I found you unattractive I just wouldn't have said anything hehe.
theres some fugly blokes out there getting laid, its not about looks, it really is about confidence.....good luck dude

[TheDeathKnight]

heres the deal.
you tell me what the fuck a C.H.U.D. is and I will tell you the answers you need to know?

[malcolm]

c.h.u.d stands for
cannibalistic
humanoid
underground
dweller

unless youre a misfits fan then it means
cannibalistic
humanoid
underground
drummer cus thats what the drummer for them goes by. think he's solo now. it's off a movie. same name to the movie. Im a huge zombi and gore fan
(not gor-gore) and chuds are military experiments that went arry. they basically are kind of like a souped up zombie.

There is a legend of a zombi king-in voodoo practices, it's a god of the undead. but i liked the sound of chud king better. less anime more urgh! lol fair enough answer? and thanx to ryuken san. domo origato.

[malcolm]

uh....camby. there aint a shit load of attractive women out here nowadays, unless you go to the flame or angelos.........or are a chubby chaser. lol.