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[OliX]

I just got back home from wild monday evening.....
We went to hip hop club and ordered a bottle of Balantine for us.... and got drunk as fuck..... even I danced with most beautifull girl and I did all regular things..... i could not succeed 2 do afterparty at my place??? why? is it just sweden and cold people or is it me?

Am I to shy????

[memorydream]

Most likely, and with time it will pass. You'll learn to get more comfortable in your skin and get along. It takes longer for some, and in different areas too.

[OliX]

that's true..... thanx 4 helping me to view situation from different angle....

[memorydream]

Well, it's nice you folks can be under 21 and drink over there, I think it helps deal with things But it's really frustrating being a young man I think. Particularily if you are especially sensitive and somewhat emotional. Remember though, most young women are about as knowledgeable about men as young men are. Maybe a girl who is a bit older to show you some things and to help bring you success? I think once the sex comes, it's a lot easier to just be alive, that's probably why were are all so hard to get to it when were younger. Take care - memorydream

[Histrionica]

I noticed you mentioned getting "drunk as fuck" - may i gently suggest that a couple of drinks can loosen you up and make it easier to talk to the girls you're interested in, however, nothing will turn the girls off faster than a slobbering drunk.

Unless of course, she is also off her gourd. Then i'd ask if you maybe smelled bad(body and/or breath) after all the drinking. If not that, then i would ask what you talked with the girls about. And if you danced with them, are you a good dancer, or really bad? Did you make a lot of sexual comments? Did you ask them any questions about themselves, or did you talk about yourself mostly? Did you stare at them inappropriately(and by that i mean like you were a hungry hounddog staring in the butchershop's window)?

We're a complicated lot - but you did ask. Those are just some suggestions of what may have been the problem.



~Histrionica~

[pedar]

Friend- I think Histronica above makes some salient points...I hate to get all 'daddy' with you -but when I was maybe around your age-- -it took me a long time to understand that you just can't make someone like you...just be yourself , be friendly and accept that it takes -as we say in the US- 'two to tango'- And now--accepting all this leads to confidence- which (-paradoxically-) makes one more attractive to the opposite sex--and I found out the hard way- you will get to that place much sooner by not relying on alcohol as a 'medication'--anyway- enough from us old farts, eh? P.

[memorydream]

Friend- I think Histronica above makes some salient points...I hate to get all 'daddy' with you -but when I was maybe around your age-- -it took me a long time to understand that you just can't make someone like you...just be yourself , be friendly and accept that it takes -as we say in the US- 'two to tango'- And now--accepting all this leads to confidence- which (-paradoxically-) makes one more attractive to the opposite sex--and I found out the hard way- you will get to that place much sooner by not relying on alcohol as a 'medication'--anyway- enough from us old farts, eh? P.

Unless, it does make you a nicer, more social person, right?

Actually, if that's the case, you probably have far bigger problems.

Just a though.

[pedar]

Unless, it does make you a nicer, more social person, right?

Actually, if that's the case, you probably have far bigger problems.

Just a though.

Hey Memorydream- (fellow JSAer)-umm- no in my case booze just made me more tackless and stupid (which is some people's definition of 'social'-it was mine for too long)-- it took me forever to realize I could be charming and seductive without a chemical prop.-although pot does make me sort of more 'funny' -in a sense -P.