My Facebook has been surprisingly lit up this week with (in addition to the usual idiotic partisan politics) people posting articles about how to pleasure a woman. I’m pretty sure most of my friends know where the clitoris is and know how to be pretty creative in bed. So I am a bit baffled by how (if you will excuse the term in the context) viral this female manual stimulation guide stuff is. First of all, I won’t dignify the most-posted articles with a link because the actual movement suggestions are effing awful.
The main thing I’d like to point out is that, contrary to what some folks would like you to believe, orgasm is not just the icing on the cake of sex for women. That’s just a stupid idea. Physical contact and closeness are awesome. So is making out, snuggling, and dancing. If you are not seeking an orgasm, you can make out, snuggle, or dance. You can achieve intimacy without utilizing the vagina. You can get off, when your female partner doesn’t feel like it, with her assistance, without sex sex. If you are having sex sex and she is not having an orgasm before, during, or after . . . well, I’m not saying you need to feel terrible about it or anything, but you should work on it with her. You should not just dismiss female orgasm as unnecessary icing. Dismissing the importance of female pleasure or suggesting that somehow women do not have the same needs men do . . . well, don’t be a sexist idiot. Okay?
This has been a Blue Blood public service announcement.
PS Who doesn’t like icing on cake?